Ecclesiastes 9:9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.
Consider this the text, next time you are struggling in your marriage. Imagine God shows up in the midst of your grumbling and asks, “My child, what is it?”
Your response; “This spouse, you gave me, why this one?! Why of all the people in the world, from every age under the sun, did you give me this one? Don’t you know me? Don’t you know what I need? Don’t you understand me, God?
God would laugh merrily and respond “Of all the people, in all the ages of men under heaven, I gave you this one and it is beautiful. I decided it before the dawn of time; I executed my purposes on every molecule of creation to prepare it and I brought it flawlessly to pass at exactly the perfect, beautiful moment. They are perfect for the purpose of your sanctification – if you if you would just submit and obey me.”
Locusts and Wild Honey 